saw these in my poly group and thought i'd share
1. Tell the truth. The truth doesn't change just because you keep it to yourself, so you may as well tell it.
2. Deal with your own shit first. If that means you have to stop and think and process before moving forward, all the better.
3. 'Please' and 'Thank you' go a long way, as do all the other rules of basic politeness and etiquette.
4. If you must make assumptions, assume the best.
5. Ask a lot of questions. Listen to the answers.
6. Carve out time and space for yourself.
7. Your calendar is your best friend. Text messaging, IM and voice mail come in a close second.
8. Be responsible for your own needs. No one else is.
9. Things change; be flexible.
10. Silly is highly under-rated. Go for silly, look for fun, be joyful.
here's another list:
1) Love, Lust, and Passion may be infinite, but time, energy and resources are not. Wasting the latter will greatly diminish pursuit of the former.
2) Be Honest with yourself. It’s the only way to be honest with others. Someone who does not appreciate honesty and candor is not someone you really want to be involved with anyway.
3) Set your boundaries and respect others’ also. A little self-awareness goes along way. By the time you get hit with the clue-by-four, the damage may be done.
4) Drama is a life and soul sucking vortex. Avoid it whenever possible. This is done in 2 ways.
a) Do your best to reduce the amount of drama causing people in your life. This can be difficult at first, but after a while you get the hang of it.
b) Do your best to reduce the amount of drama YOU CAUSE. This is much harder than part a, but also achievable. See point’s 2 & 3 for reference.
5) Be aware how you are expending your resources. Avoid wasting valuable time and energy in pursuit of those uninterested, unwilling, or unable to reciprocate no matter how desirable you find them to be. When in doubt, see point # 1.
6) Slow the fuck down will ya?! You can’t stop and smell the flowers if you are too busy trampling over them. Fate has a way of working things out, and will do so in its own time no matter how much you run around chasing your tail (and expending energy needlessly). Fate, occasionally, could use a nudge, and sometimes even a big push. Use caution however, because Fate knows how to push back. Hard.
7) When you fall and embarrass yourself (and you will sometimes), pick yourself up and move on. Everybody does it and you are not alone. Use your experience to recognize your mistakes when you make them again and maybe even avoid them entirely!
I'm feeling: 
anxious